DATING VS COURTSHIP

HELLO SINGLED OUT AND FAVOURED ONES!!

"BEING A SINGLE CHRISTIAN WHO HAS DATED MANY MANY TIMES AND EXPERIENCED THE BROKEN HEART , THE WRENCHING EMPTINESS AND THE HORROR OF REJECTION AFTER HAVING BEEN SEEN AT ALL THE SOCIAL GATHERINGS WITH A CERTAIN SOMEONE AND STILL BUMPING INTO THAT SOMEONE AT THE SAME SOCIAL GATHERINGS WE USED TO GO ,WITH THEIR NEW MATE WHO IS LIKELY TO BE THE NEXT VICTIM OF REJECTION THROUGH THE TRIAL AND ERROR METHOD OF FINDING A MARRIAGE PARTNER (DATING).I NO LONGER BELIEVE IN DATING AND HAVE COME TO A CONCLUSION THAT IT IS NOT GOD'S PATTERN, WE CERTAINLY DO NOT HEAR OF IT IN THE BIBLE UNLESS OFF COURSE I MISSED THE PAGE.I BELIEVE THAT THE BIBLICAL DESIGN WOULD BE FRIENDSHIP, COURTSHIP AND THEN MARRIAGE.FRIENDSHIP IS TWO PEOPLE WALKING TOGETHER IN AGREEMENT AND ACCOUNTABILTY, LEARNING AND GROWING TOGETHER.
COURTSHIP FOLLOWS THE MUTUAL AGREEMENT TO COMMIT TO ONE ANOTHER EXCLUSIVELY-IT IS THE DECISIVE TURNING TOWARD THE AGREED UPON GOAL OF THE MARRIAGE ALTAR.
A MAIN EXCUSE FOR DATING IS THAT PEOPLE GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER, BUT THERE ARE WAYS OF GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE HAVING COMMITED TO A RELATIONSHIP AND YET NOT HAVING THE FULL INTENTION OF MARRYING.THERE ARE HOUSEGROUPS OR KINSHIPS, YOUTH MEETINGS, CAMPS OUTREACHS PLACES WHERE WE CAN FORM MANY FRIENDSHIPS AND JUST BEING PART OF A FAMILY YOU LEARN HOW THE OPPOSITE SEX ARE LIKE FROM THE WAY YOU RELATE TO ALL THE BROTHERS OR SISTERS IN YOUR HOUSEGROUP , THIS IS A MUCH SAFER WAY SINCE YOU CANNOT GET HURT OR DECEIVED ,BECAUSE FOR A GUY TO PUT UP AN ACT WHILE IN A HOUSEGROUP HE WILL NOT GET FAR AND EVENTUALLY THE TRUTH WILL OUT, BUT IF YOU ARE DATING THERE IS AN AIR OF FALSE PRETENSE AND WANTING TO BE WHAT ONE IS NOT. IN THE PURE RELATIONSHIPS I HAVE FORMED WITH THE BROTHERS IN MY CHURCH I HAVE LEARNED A LOT MORE ABOUT GUYS THAN I LEARNT IN MY PAST DATING RELATIONSHIPS.THERE IS NO BETTER WAY TO KNOW A GUY THAN IN A CHURCH SETTING BECAUSE YOU LEARN WHAT TYPE OF A PERSON HE IS BY THE WAY HE TALKS AND TREATS EVERYONE IN THE CHURCH, THE WAY HE HANDLES PRESSURE LIKE EXPERIENCING A CRISIS LIKE HIS GUITAR STRING BREAKING AS HE IS IN THE MIDDLE OF LEADING WORSHIP.
DATING IN A WAY IS TRYING TO HELP GOD FIND YOUR MATE WHEN HE IS CAPABLE OF BRINGING YOUR MATE RIGHT ON YOUR DOORSTEP.HE WILL EVEN SEND AN ANGEL BEFORE YOU AS YOU SELECT YOUR MATE LIKE HE DID FOR ISAAC IN GENESIS 24: 7.AFTER HAVING FORMED MANY FRIENDSHIPS AS YOU FELLOWSHIP, ONE CAN DEVELOP STRONG FEELINGS FOR A CERTAIN SISTER OR BROTHER BECAUSE THEY HAVE REALISED THAT THEY HAVE THE SAME VISION FOR GOD BUT THEY ARE TO WAIT UNTIL THEY GET CLEARANCE FROM GOD.WHEN ONE HAS CLEARANCE AND GOT SOLID CONFIRMATION AND BOTH PARTIES HAVE HEARD FROM GOD THEY CAN THEN COMMIT TO COURTSHIP TOWARDS MARRIAGE.WHY SHOULD ONE WANT TO DATE AT THE AGE OF SIXTEEN WHEN THEY ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED?WHY SHOULD SOMEONE TRY THIS TRIAL AND ERROR METHOD WHEN THEY CAN HEAR FROM GOD WITHOUT HAVING TO FACE HEARTBREAK?DATING TO ME IS AN ATTRIBUTE OF COURTSHIP BECAUSE WHEN ONE IS IN COURTSHIP THEY ARE COMMITED AND THEREFORE CAN ATTEND ALL SOCIAL EVENTS TOGETHER AND SPEND A LOT OF TIME ALONE BECAUSE IT IS A PERIOD OF LAYING A FOUNDATION AND PREPARING THEIR LIFE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE.WHEN ONE CHOOSES TO DATE THEY ARE TAKING AN ATTRIBUTE THAT IS WELL INTENDED FOR PEOPLE THAT ARE WORKING TOWARDS MARRIAGE.ANOTHER THING THAT BAFFLES ME IS THAT IF DATING IS A MEANS OF GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE THEN WHY DO PEOPLE WHO ARE GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER END UP BEING SEXUALLY INVOLVED? A LADY ONCE SAID THAT A GIRL'S HEART AND I ALSO BELIVE A GUYS' HEART TOO IS LIKE A PIECE OF A4 PAPER, THE FIRST PERSON THEY DATE BREAKS THEIR HEART AND TAKES HALF OF THEIR HEART, THE NEXT PERSON ALSO COMES AND TAKES HALF OF THE REMAINING HALF, THE CYCLE GOES ON TILL THE FINAL TINY LITTLE HALF BROKEN HEART AND THIS THEN ENDS UP BEING GIVEN TO THE ONE GOD HAS CHOSEN.WHEN WE FINALLY GET TO THE ONE GOD HAS CHOSEN AFTER DATING ZILLION TIMES WE ARE NOT SO VULNERABLE AND AS LOVING AS WE OUGHT TO BE TO THE PERSON.

I DECIDED TO STOP DATING TWO YEARS AGO BECAUSE I DID NOT WANT MY HEART TO KEEP ON BEING TORN, IT HAS NOT BEEN EASY AND OF COURSE I GET CRUSHES LIKE EVERYBODY DOES BUT UNTIL GOD SHOWS ME MY FUTURE HUSBAND AND UNTIL HE LEADS MY HUSBAND TO ME I WILL ENJOY BEING SINGLE NO MORE GUESSING, NO MORE TRIAL AND ERROR RELATIONSHIPS I WANT MY NEXT RELATIONSHIP TO BE THE ONE THAT LEADS TO MARRIAGE BECAUSE WE WILL BOTH HAVE GOD'S HAND UPON OUR RELATIONSHIP."